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Saturday, 15 April 2017

LIFESTYLE | The anti-bucket list

You all know by now that visiting Mexico (or even travelling in general) has been on my bucket list for a long time now. My bucket list seems to grow longer each and every day, but as I've always felt it's important to count my blessings and remember things I have managed to do, I thought it might be fun to put together an 'anti' bucket list today.

So here are some things I've done/opportunities I've had in the past - some have been on my bucket list, some haven't but would be on my bucket list..and some are just damn right awesome.

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I probably wouldn't have put this on my bucket list otherwise because camels are scary as shit bro, but hey, I've ridden a camel and it was kinda cool (as is the photo to prove it). The best part is why though - it was when I was on holiday in Egypt with my sister and we went on an excursion that saw us travelling into the Egyptian desert on camels to stargaze. We did other stuff too, but being able to stand under the vast night sky and watch the stars in the middle of the Egyptian desert is something I'll never forget.

I was terrible at it, but at least I've tried it..

The same as above. Although I spent half the time hiding as I was too scared to get hit, so perhaps I can't vouch for this one entirely as I've never actually felt the pain of being hit by a paintball!

Another one to thank my sister for. Celebrating the countdown along Champs-Élysées was the best New Year's Eve of my life.

I mean yeah, a lot of people are still surprised to learn that you can even see meteor showers in the UK but it's possible. There are a lot throughout the year, but watching one for the first time beneath clear skies was a really lovely memory for me.

Yeah, yeah, we all knew this one would come up eventually. I feel lucky that I've not only been able to meet my idols/people I look up to so much/my favourite band, but I've also been able to hang out with them and have nights out with them. I suppose these days it doesn't seem like such an achievement as being able to meet a band member is as easy as waiting outside after a gig ends, but back when I was younger and in love with Charlie from Busted, I'd literally never imagine I'd have the chance to ever meet any sort of celebrity. Now I'm on a first name basis with my favourite band and have lots of pictures to look back on to remember these times.

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Obviously I appreciate everything about this weekend even more now that my mum is no longer with us, but years and years ago, my mum, my sister and I had a girly weekend away in Bruges just before Christmas. It was so beautiful and seasonal, and of course Bruges is really well-known for being a fairytale town anyway. This is one of my favourite ever memories.

Oh yes. Everyone has done this, then again, anyone that hasn't should do this at least once in their life. It's not that special and certainly doesn't feel any different but hey, at least you can pretend you're in a movie.

Even though the footage never actually got published online and even though I've interviewed plenty of bands over the years, this was my first ever time conducting an interview and it couldn't have gone better. There was so much that could have gone wrong that night (at first we had no way to get there until two strangers - Tom and Harry - offered to give us a lift and went on to become such good friends of ours, I forgot my notes, I had to use my phone as a dictaphone) - yet everything not only went perfectly but just felt so...right. The interview flowed so well that it felt like I was just having a conversation with old friends, which I suppose is the way an interview should seem. Best of all though was the fact that I can be totally shy when meeting new people, let alone band members, but I managed to interview this amazing band (who I've been such a fan of since I was a teenager), stone cold sober without any issues. It just made me feel like it was my calling to interview bands because of how at ease I felt, and I'll always be sure to call on that feeling when I feel disheartened about how hard it can be trying to break into music journalism.

This isn't that amazing and it was only a high school production, but being that I was notoriously shy during my teenage years, being in a play was a big achievement for me. I applied for the narrator's role but my drama teacher pushed me for a main role as he felt I had more talent then that, so that was a huge confidence boost for me too.

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Now this was fun. I'd totally do this again.

So I got drunk and spent the whole evening with the lead singer of The Maine rather than actually being a journalist and talking to other artists, but to be fair I was there as a guest, not to interview bands anyway so.

I don't know why this would be on anyone's list but he is a legend.

I've always wanted to do a road trip and although it's still my ultimate dream to do one in America, this was fun. Me and some friends road tripped around the UK to see our favourite band at all their UK tour dates and it was an adventure I'll never forget. We made memories to last a lifetime, stayed in awesome hotels and got to visit some pretty cool tourist attractions too. A lot of people actually told me they wished they'd had the chance to do something similar when they were younger but honestly? It was just a matter of finding some friends who liked the same band as me, budgeting for some cheap hotels (and one party hotel!) and creating a bunch of awesome playlists. The planning was half the fun...

It's only recently I ticked this one off but within the last few years I've been to Reading and Lost Village, as well as smaller day festivals such as Slam Dunk, Hit The Deck and Camden Rocks.

My parents took me as a total surprise when I was younger and it's still one of the best holidays of my life.

Just reading through some of these makes me realize just how lucky I am (even though I've probably forgotten a bunch!). But I will say that a lot of things listed here have just been down to me saying yes or putting myself forward for opportunities. Interviewing my favourite band or riding a camel is something that anyone can do, really, (well the camel one depends on where you are in the world!) just by putting yourself out there!

Have you ever put together an 'anti bucket list'? If so, I'd love to read it!

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  1. What a wonderful idea .. to focus not on all of the things we could/wish to do .. but to be happy with all of the cool things we have done. Paris?! Music festivals?! And kissing in the rain. Made me smile

    1. Aw, thank you, it was actually my boyfriend's idea :) x


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