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Tuesday, 31 July 2012

I was recently contacted by the team at My Cocktail to review some of their latest and new products - 'mocktails' - aka non alcoholic cocktails! The company behind these brand new 'mocktails' are a Manchester based team who specialise in distributing pre-mixed cocktails in pouches, therefore eliminating the need for purchasing and mixing all the different ingredients, drinks and products yourself. The fab idea is perfect for when you don't have the effort or funds to go through the process of making a cocktail up yourself and means that upon buying the pouches of drink, you can pour them out straight and enjoy the cocktails as they are without any additional mixing.

Their new range of mocktails are absolutely ideal for when you want to enjoy a delicious cocktail but don't want to suffer the hangover that comes with them! Cocktails are delicious with or without alcohol and sometimes I myself have found that I'd love to treat myself to a cocktail without actually having to drink any alcohol. Mocktails are perfect for situations like these, or even when you do want to drink them on a night out but you want to start slowly - you can also add your own alcohol to mocktails which means you can drink them by themselves as non alcoholic or add as much or as little alcohol as you like.

I was sent their two brand new mocktails to review which were 'Woo Woo' (a personal favourite cocktail of mine from my student days!) and 'Pina Colada' (which I'd never had before but was delicious!). 

I tried the Woo Woo mocktail before a night out with my friend and thought it was delicious. I tried it as it was and my friend had hers with some vodka mixed in - I tried both and honestly could not taste the difference! It was a really nice change to drink whilst we were getting ready together because it kept me in the spirit but stopped me having a bit too much before we'd even left the house. I really liked the fact that I didn't have to miss out and still felt in the party spirit even though essentially I was drinking something that was non alcoholic.

I tried the Pina Colada mocktail with my Mum when we had our weekly Saturday night takeaway and again, I thought it was delicious. The Pina Colada was my Mum's favourite and she said it tasted exactly like a Pina Colada cocktail should. Again it was a nice idea - even though I wasn't heading out that particular night, it was nice to still be able to drink a few mocktails as it was Saturday night after all!

I absolutely love this idea and think that a mocktail is something everyone could benefit from. These mocktails are perfect for situations like a nice summer BBQ or a house party or just getting ready to go out - they are ideal for when you want to get in the mood but don't want to overdo yourself. Additionally, I think they are also quite good for anyone who might be pregnant or something and don't want to let on just yet, or even designated drivers on a night out or at a party.

MyMocktails are the perfect delicious and sophisticated non-alcoholic alternative to two of the most popular cocktails. They are definitely something I will purchase again, most especially for any BBQ's or parties I have coming up.

Mocktails - and other products by the team at My Cocktail - are available in most ASDA stores ready to serve, costing only £2.49 per litre! You can also click here to discover your nearest stock list or to find out more about their different products, and you can join their Facebook page here to be in with the chance of winning prizes weekly.

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Sunday, 29 July 2012

Monday 23rd July - Sunday 29th July

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1. Nan's Spag Bol! Delicious! I popped down to my Nan's on Monday after a very confusing afternoon (my sister turned up wondering where everyone was, Mum was meant to be home as was I - I was out having one of the best first date's ever ;) - so she rang Mum and told me she could here Mum's phone going off in the house so we thought she was asleep, I got in, rang Mum again and she answered - turns out she was down my Nan's. God knows what my sister heard?) anywho so we all went for a mooch down there to plan our girly weekend away to Bruge at the end of the year and Nan insisted we had some dinner. Then my Dad turned up half hour later, also wondering where everyone was, ha!
2 & 3. My outfit Thursday and Sambuca shots We had a night out Thursday, isn't my outfit cute?! Plus check out the shots photo, I love how Amy is downing hers and I've already had mine and am looking at it in disgust...
4. Janine inspecting Nan's cucumber...No comment
5. Cute outfit
6. Jasper after my ice cream whilst I was sunbathing
7. Shandy, Salt 'n' Vinegar crisps & a few games of pool...Could I have been anymore of a bloke Friday night?!
8. Drunken injuries Trust me, it hurt a lot and the cut is a lot bigger in person!
9. Pretty lake thing 

This week I've been -

Watching...Back to the future & batman
Reading...Warm Bodies
Playing...Zombie Farm 2
Smelling of...Harajuki Lovers Fragrance - Lil' Angel
Perving on...Cameron Leahy
Loving...everything this week!

I literally have not stopped this week - hence all the photos! I had a few more to put in (including a photo of Jasper looking like E.T!) but lining all the photos up has been stressing me out. Anyway this week I've been up to all sorts - on Monday I popped into town to have a few (soft!) drinks, then again on Thursday to go and see the new batman movie. Where I fell asleep. Yes, I know. To be fair I didn't realize the film was going to be three hours long! On top of that I've had extra hours at work this week where I've been opening up the shop and I had an awesome night out on Thursday. It was one of the best nights out I've had in ages (I say that every week, don't I?) but I had lots of laughs, a few too many Sambuca shots and met loads of really lovely people. I didn't get home the next day till at least 1 in  the afternoon, oh dear! Me, Amy and her sister also decided to have a few games of pool on a whim Friday night - I don't think Amy realized how good I'd be ha! We didn't get home till gone 2am so I was exhausted, I've not done much this weekend as I think this week I've had no more than 24 hours sleep altogether! Despite this I did manage a little run yesterday once the weather cooled down a little bit - it's a shame it's gone so bad again today! I can't wait to have a nice hot bath to relax now!

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Sunday, 22 July 2012

Monday 16th July - Sunday 22nd July 2012

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1. Beautiful weather! I took Jasper out for a run today and took this when I sat down for a little break. For the first time ever, I let Jasper off his lead too and he was as good as gold! I've never let him off his lead before when taking him for a walk just by myself as I'm always scared he'll run into traffic/get into a fight with another dog/not come back when I call him, but he was fine!
2. Bedhead! Me sporting a severe case of 'bedhead' when I woke up the other day
3. 'Birdwatching' notes We went out today to this beautiful place and found they'd added a mini cabin for birdwatchers. We went in intrigued (the view was stunning!) and found binoculars, a bench and a notebook for people to note down what wildlife they'd spotted. This is just one of the notes that made us giggle. (If you can't read it, click on the image to make it bigger!) Other people had claimed they'd spotted a crocodile and a 'fat' bird. Very amusing. We got some weird looks as well as we were supposed to be bird watching quietly (to stop scaring them all off) but we just sat in there laughing our heads off. 
4. The Old Watermill, which is where we were at today. It's so beautiful (especially at Christmas with all the decorations)

This week I've been -

Watching...Geordie Shore (oh dear)
Reading...Johnny Be Good by Paige Toon
Playing...Zombie Farm 2
Smelling of...Harajuki Lovers Fragrance - Lil' Angel
Perving on...Cameron Leahy
Loving...being single and the fact that it's finally sunny again!

This week I've been ridiculously skint so along with working I've been applying for loads of jobs in the hope of getting another part time job. Thankfully the weather has gotten a bit nicer so I've been out for a few runs this week! Yep, check me out, I never thought I'd ever go running without someone forcing me to. I've actually really been enjoying it. Something really weird happened to me on my first run though - I was with Jasper and in all honesty I looked like complete crap considering it was my first run in about five years. My hair was all over the place, I had no makeup on and looked just about ready to collapse. Which is when this randomer turned his car around, followed me up the road and stopped me to insist I take his number! It was really the most random thing ever, I barely think I look good most of the time as it is so for a guy to practically follow me to give me his number when I'm looking so rough is pretty weird! Seriously though, it did admittedly leave me feeling chuffed and eager to keep up running!

Me and Amy tried to introduce Jasper to Jade's dogs this week but unfortunately they didn't get on! We were hoping to start taking all three dogs for lots of long walks up the downs together but it looks like this won't be happening. It's okay though, Jasper is loving all the walks I've been taking him on lately!

Other than that I've not been up to much other than tweaking the blog a little bit. Do you all like the new blog banner? It's simple but I think it's quite sweet. 

I should have more to talk about next week as I've got loads on - plans with my sister, two dates and two nights out! Oh dear, so much for saving money! I'm off to bake some sausage rolls, watch a movie with a friend then get an early night as I've got work pretty early tomorrow.

Hope you've all had a lovely week and you're all enjoying the weather at last! 

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Tuesday, 17 July 2012

Hello everyone! Just a quick post today to ask you all your opinion about the blog. Sometimes I struggle to think about whether something I post will interest you or not, and of course I end up at that age old debate - do I blog for myself and write about what I like, or do I blog for you guys and write about what you like to read? Well, I try to aim for a bit of both but I hope I'm right in thinking that generally the things I like to write about are also the things you like to read about.

So I've just set up a little poll that I'm hoping you'll all take a moment to contribute to. It's just to get some idea of what you like to read the most and what posts I might be lacking in aka what I need to post more of! I'd also appreciate any other feedback (even negative feedback!) on anything else to do with the blog - you can comment below on this post if you so wish.

The poll is also in the sidebar, incase you want to vote at a later date.

So, what are your favourite type of posts, or posts you'd like to see more of?

Thank you in advance!
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Monday, 16 July 2012

I've only just gotten my head around the way link up's work and have realized how beneficial it is to bloggers. I love following new blogs so I thought taking part in Bex's link up would be a nice way to discover some new inspiring blogs. Bex does a weekly 'Live, Love, Loathe' post on a Monday and has recently turned it into a link up, so here's my take on it!

Like ;

Sorting out my priorities. This time last week, I felt all over the place in regards to my life - I felt like time was running away from me. Given that I'm only 22, I'm aware that that sounds a bit silly, but I felt snowed under with all the different things I wanted to do but didn't have time to do them. Since then I've kind of relaxed a bit - although the problems aren't fixed, I've relaxed about them and concentrated on prioritizing my time better. Most evenings I now stop work/blogging/planning at about 6 and instead go and spent time with my friends or my family. I've also moved some meetings from November to September about other things, and have finally started putting some money aside to go traveling.

Love ;

Reading. I love reading - alongside writing, it is one of my biggest passion in life. I've got books I've treasured since I was young, and books I've kept so that one day I can give them to my children hoping they will inspire them as much as they have inspired me. Lately I've lacked in new reading material, so I ordered a bunch of books of off Amazon last week and can't wait to get reading. My Mum has just purchased this new and beautiful red chair for the dining room and it's so unbelievably comfy, as well as reminding me of Christmas with the brown and red stripes. It already feels like winter, so I can't wait to curl up on it reading when it's cold outside. I especially cant wait till it actually is winter, as we have huge patio doors and I'll be able to read and watch the snow coming down outside.

Loathe ;

The weather. I don't mind the rain, and I love the cold BUT NOT WHEN IT'S SUMMER. I really wish the sun would come back, if even for a week. I want to be able to go outside in dresses and skirts and I don't want to have to carry an umbrella everywhere with me! Plus, I want to get on with my new fitness regime. After recently purchasing proper running earphones (so they don't fall out of my ear!) an armband thing for my iphone/ipod AND a skipping rope, I've been desperate to get out and about. But it hasn't stopped bloody raining for longer than a few hours. I give up.
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Sunday, 15 July 2012

Monday 9th July - Sunday 15th July


1. Me being a geek Just playing around on Geek Booth, but I am a geek anyway!
2. Me quoting American Horror Story This is one of my new favourite shows and I watched the whole first season back to back this week!

This week I've been -

Watching...American Horror Story
Reading...Christmas at Tiffany's by Karen Swan
Listening to...The Downtown Fiction 
Playing Learning...French on my iPhone 4S
Smelling of...Harajuki Lovers Fragrance - Lil' Angel
Perving on...Cameron Leahy & Evan Peters
Loving...we're over halfway through the year so I'm allowed to get excited about Christmas now!

I did say I wouldn't have many pictures this week! I've spent most of this week working (including the Next sale which!) and watching TV/spending time with my family. I've been making an active effort to kind of deal with blogging/business stuff no later then 6ish, switching off my laptop and spending my evenings relaxing or reading or just spending time with my family. It's been a long week and I'm back in work again tomorrow, so since I walked through the door from work last night I immediately changed into my sweats and have stayed in them since! I'm gonna have a relaxing bath later and probably watch another movie tonight.

One of my best friends from uni graduated this week too (we went to uni together but she studied in France for a year) so this had me feeling quite nostalgic. Only this time last year I was graduating from the same uni, and it's hard to believe a whole year has passed since then. Also, it reminded me very much of my student days and how many great memories I had with her and another close uni friend. It really reminded me of how much I miss the north too, being that I lived there for three years. I've decided I'd like to go back and visit, though I don't know when.

South Shields beach is once place I really regret not visiting when I popped back up in February, and this beach is still one of my favourite places in the whole world. I took the photo above the very first time I visited it and it's home to so many great memories. I love this photo and want to frame it in my room. I can't wait to go back to the beach and buy some delicious chips from South Shields too - yummy!

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Friday, 13 July 2012

Thursday, 12 July 2012

Sometimes you just have 'one of those days'. All week I've had so much to do that I've just felt like everything has gotten on top of me and I'm not getting anywhere. And with the weather like it is, on days like this, sometimes it's best to just stock up on your favourite junk food, pick up a good book, magazine or film and just relax. Perfect :)

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Wednesday, 11 July 2012

Yesterday I wrote a review of the fab and gripping Butterfly, by Barbara Wood, written under the name Kathryn Harvey. I absolutely loved this book so I was so ecstatic to have the chance to interview her about the story and the issues mentioned within it. I couldn't wait to have some of my questions answered!

1. Butterfly is the ultimate story of revenge – what would you say is the best form of revenge?
Kathryn Harvey: The best form of revenge is to achieve the perfect moment and perfect means for exacting that revenge, letting the object of that revenge be well aware that you have that power over him or her, and then not going through with it.  I think that would be absolutely delicious.  And it gives one the high road, doesn’t it?
2. Have you ever gotten revenge on anyone? 
Kathryn Harvey: No, I haven’t.  While revenge works well in a novel, and can be quite satisfying, in real life revenge (and plotting it) is counterproductive.  We are on this earth with a finite amount of time.  I would not want to waste it on something as petty and fleeting and unprofitable as revenge.  Fictional characters live forever and have the luxury of using their time however they wish.
3. Butterfly can be quite racy in places – as can your book Stars which is previewed at the back. Along with other books, women’s erotica is becoming more and more popular. Why do you think this is? 
Kathryn Harvey: I think it’s because women are finally allowed to read such books.  Yes, allowed.  We have come a long way from the days when ladies had to retire to another room after dinner while the men drank whiskey and smoked cigars and no doubt talked about sex and taboo subjects.  Despite Women’s Lib back in the seventies, a lot of old standards have stayed with us.  It was “unseemly” for women to read erotica, or even to want to!  There was very little available back then.  The double standard held.  But times are changing, and the younger generation of women is more open and vocal about what they want.  I love it!
4. Do you think it is causing women to become more open minded – both in the bedroom and in terms of their reading material? 
Kathryn Harvey: Definitely.  As I stated above, the old standards are being shattered every day.  There was a time when the word “vagina” was whispered.  Old taboos are going the way of the whale-bone corset.
5. When reading Butterfly, I immediately picked up on some of the underlining issues drawn upon such as neglect, rejection and self-esteem. What are some other issues you’ve written into the book? 
Kathryn Harvey: Self-reliance, courage, and the power of Sisterhood.
6. When creating characters for Butterfly, did you base any of their qualities – or the characters as a whole – on yourself or on anyone you knew? 
Kathryn Harvey: I based Beverly Highland on myself – or rather, the heroic woman I wish I could be.  She is my personal fantasy.  I would like to think that if I went through what she did, I would have the chutzpah to launch her plan of revenge and have the courage and strength of will to stick with it and carry it out.  I’m not sure I could!  Trudie is based on a dear friend and she sees herself in there.  The others are amalgams of ladies that I know or have met. 
7. Within the story you addressed the two very different sides of prostitution – the darker side where girls were forced into unsafe sex and living in horrible conditions – and at the other end of the spectrum, a more upper class, glamorous, exclusive and very safe side of it. Did you feel that it was necessary to explore both sides of paying for sex? 
Kathryn Harvey: When it comes to sex for sale, all you hear about is the men’s side of it (and by the way, prostitution is NOT the oldest profession, but that’s for another book).  When you do hear about women paying for sex, it’s in a sad and pathetic way, like lonely women hiring handsome gigolos to escort them places.  Since I wanted to show what women really want and what they can really achieve when they put their minds and their libidos together (honestly, men’s whorehouses are SO unimaginative!), I needed to contrast it with the profession as it has been known for centuries.  I’m kind of asking the reader: which would YOU prefer?
8. I noticed that the darker side of prostitution was generally dominated by men – men were the ones paying for sex and also the ones finding girls and taking advantage of them, forcing them into prostitution. But women were the ones who later on paid for sex in a much more safer and exclusive way – as well as women being the ones who launched the business idea. Is there a particular reason why you had women portrayed as the ones to go about with paying for sex in a more glamorous way, as opposed to men kind of doing the opposite? 
Kathryn Harvey: Let’s face it, men and women are definitely wired differently.  Men are very basic when it comes to sex.  Women want more.  This is why Butterfly is about costumes, characters, storylines – the patrons of the private establishment can request elaborate fantasies, or simple sexual encounters – in other words, Butterfly caters to every taste.  For the most part, women aren’t as basic as men when it comes to sex.  We tend to like interesting settings and men who are more characters than just men (e.g. a swashbuckling pirate or a dusty cowboy).  In other words, exotic sexual encounters that we would never encounter in our daily lives.  Something to transport us to another world.  It isn’t just about orgasm.
9. We don’t often think of women being the ones to pay for sex – is this something you particularly wanted to bring up in the story? 
Kathryn Harvey: I don’t think of the members of Butterfly as paying for sex per se.  It’s the ambience, the settings, the costumes, paying for a safe and discreet environment and the guarantee of having a sexual partner who won’t suddenly turn into a creep or a murderer.  Men don’t mind sex in the backseat of a car.  Women like fantasy and role-playing.  That can be costly.
10. Do you personally feel that somewhere like Butterfly should – if it doesn’t already! – exist? For example, do you think it’s necessary to have a more safe way to do this, since the wrong way like sex trafficking and girls being forced into it exists anyway? Or do you feel it will only add to the problem?
Kathryn Harvey: I have always thought prostitution should be legalized.  Unfortunately, the trafficking in girls who are kidnapped and forced into sexual slavery has existed for millennia and I doubt will go away soon.  But I think we are talking apples and oranges here.  That awful trade has to do with a more sinister and darker side of the human psyche whereas an establishment like Butterfly is about free-will and the exploration of human pleasure between willing participants.
11. What gave you inspiration for this story? 
Kathryn Harvey: The idea for my book came from a board game friends and I had invented for our personal amusement.  We designed a board with squares, we had little movers, we rolled dice and we drew cards.  The game was about women’s sexual fantasies, and we each contributed fantasies on the cards, plus “men.”(mostly in the form of movie stars).  Some of the fantasies were basic, but most were elaborate and sounded like romance novels.  One evening in the middle of a game, one of my friends said, “How come men have such easy access to sex?  They can buy it whenever they want.  But what’s out there for women?”  Another player said, “Wow, a really neat bordello for women.”  And I added, “I’d be there in a flash.”  Mind you, we were all happily married and just speculating.  But the idea had been planted.
12. How long did it take for you to write it? 
Kathryn Harvey: Eight weeks.  I was very inspired!
13. Finally, what advice or tips would you give to other writers? 
Kathryn Harvey: To aspiring writers I say just do it.  Sit down and write one page a day and at the end of the year you have a novel.  Don’t let anyone discourage you or say it can’t be done.  And don’t spend a lot of time sitting in classes on creative writing, or going to those expensive writing weekends.  Just do it.  And to established writers interested in getting into erotica, I say don’t get overly anatomical and think it’s sexy.  Remember that the brain is just as powerful a sex organ as those others.  So leave a few things out for the reader to fill in.  Leave something to the imagination.  Not all women like to read graphic or explicit sex scenes.  For many, it can be a turn-off.

A big thanks to Barbara/Kathryn for answering my questions, all of which were extremely interesting and made me realize even more issues addressed in the story! Butterfly can be purchased on Amazon or other popular book retailers and you can find out more about Barbara Wood and her books here.
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Tuesday, 10 July 2012

I was recently offered this book to review and was so excited as soon as it arrived through the post. On first thoughts, I couldn't wait to get reading. It is written by Barbara Wood who is writing under the name Kathryn Harvey. The cover is intriguing - although there are different copies, I received the one which had the same cover as above - a lady in a lace masquerade mask with deep red lips, looking mysterious. I already knew from the blurb that one of the main themes based within this book was fantasy so the cover went hand in hand with this but also drew me in more because I was eager to discover what fantasy exactly it represented.

Being that Butterfly is also a New York Times Bestseller, I also knew it would be an amazing book. The copy I received was 511 pages long as well, which I thought was ideal as I knew it would be a long book. Being a fast reader, I often find that I read some shorter stories over a few days and I regret reading them so fast - whereas with Butterfly, I really indulged myself and loved that it lasted longer.

But onto the story - the story of Butterfly was amazing. It's been a long time since I haven't been able to put a book down but Butterfly did this. The story was so mysterious and gripping - every time I told myself I'd finish a chapter then put the book down, the chapter would end on a cliffhanger or just draw me in more and before I knew it I was reading the next chapter! 

The blurb reads -

Above an exclusive men's store on Rodeo Drive there is a private club called Butterfly, where women are free to act out their secret erotic fantasies. Only the most beautiful and powerful women in Beverly Hills are invited to join: Jessica, a lawyer who longs for the days when men were men, and women dressed to please them; Trudie, a builder who wants a man who will challenge her - all of her - with no holds barred; and Linda, a surgeon, who uses masks to unmask the desires she hides even from herself.

But the most mysterious of them all is the woman who created Butterfly. She has changed her name, her accent, even her face to hide her true identity. And now she is about to reveal everything to realize the dream that has driven her since childhood - the secret obsession that will carry her beyond ecstasy, or destroy her and everyone around her.

I loved how many different issues the story drew upon - revenge, fantasy, abandonment, courage and more. It definitely opened my eyes to a lot of things - such as the way prostitution, paying for sex or just sex alone is viewed differently between men and women. Each different character have their own issues to deal with - some that are so common that you may find yourself relating to them - and others that may just open your eyes like they did to me.

Each character was so different as well with different qualities, dreams and fantasies, which refrained from getting confused between each character as there were a few central main characters. I thought the characters were extremely likeable as well - each of them were proof that you never really know what's going on inside someone's head or someone's life so you should never judge someone when you don't know them.

I loved the two sides of the main business it explored as well. The story explored behind the business - why it was set up, who it was set up by etc and also the way the business was enjoyed, such as why the women 'used' the business so to speak, the fantasies they enjoyed and their own issues that led them to the business. 

The idea that, in this story, an exclusive members club where women can essentially pay for not only sex but a way to act out their most out there and erotic fantasies, was quite interesting. The fact that we live in a world where prostitution is very prominent but not really in a safe environment, it's almost weird to think that somewhere like Butterfly doesn't already exist. The business employes only good looking male models who have to go through a long process to work there - including background checks, tests that they are 'safe' so to speak, and the promise to complete secrecy. Members who attend never reveal their names and have the chance to safely act out any fantasy they please, each of which is completely centered around their idea, down to even the smallest detail such as decor, costume, accent and more. It's interesting because the story addresses that women are much more imaginative when it comes to sex - yes, as women we can be basic like men and just do it, but women tend to be more about the fantasy element with details being just right, whereas this isn't something that particularly concerns men.

I found myself constantly reading about plot twists and shocking revelations, as well as feeling different emotions. Some parts I laughed at, others I felt close to tears when reading - Butterfly was definitely the ultimate life changing revenge story and among everything, you'll find yourself feeling inspired by this book as well.

I felt there wasn't really anything I disliked about this story, even though it's not the type of book I've really read before. It was very inspiring in that it definitely had a major underlining 'girl power' feeling to it which I loved!

I'd definitely recommend this sizzling story!

I've also had the opportunity to interview Kathryn Harvey about the book, the issues within the story and more. Check back tomorrow for this interview and to hear more about the story!

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Monday, 9 July 2012

Unfortunately, not everything lasts forever and sometimes no matter how much you love someone, it has to come to an end. Relationships end for a number of different reasons - from cheating & having lack of trust, to living too far apart or just wanting to be single. In this post I'm focusing on when sometimes you just know things aren't right, which is quite vague and can cover a lot of different reasons really.

This subject is something that's been quite prominent to me in the past year or so - both to me personally and also to someone close to me. Despite myself and most people I know being completely settled in their relationships - living with someone, being pretty serious, things just weren't right. And that's the tough part - when you've been with someone for so long and they practically are your other half, how are you supposed to end something like that just because you've got a gut feeling that things aren't right?

You can work on things, of course. If you're lucky and you're good at communication, you can talk things through and get to the bottom of the problem. But some people aren't so lucky and I can't explain what it feels like to be in that situation. For me personally, having never even ended things with someone before (on my terms, as in I'd never dumped someone), it was really hard for me as I didn't know if my doubts were genuine or not. All I knew was that something wasn't right, and because of that I began to feel suffocated. 

What I think though is that when you do start to have doubts, then something is obviously wrong - as hard as it is to admit that. But how can you accept this - accept that just knowing things are wrong means ending things with someone you love and have built a life with? Breaking up with people is tough enough as it is, but breaking up with them for what seems like no legit reason is even harder, especially if you're in a serious relationship. 

Sometimes you have to just bite the bullet though and accept that when it comes to ending things, it's going to be extremely tough. The more history you have with someone, the harder it's going to be. And although it's tough, you have to remember that you survived just fine before you met this person, so you can do it again.

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I personally found it extra tough because there wasn't one thing in particular about mine and my ex's relationship that made me miserable. I still loved him and loved being with him and in the relationship - I wasn't 100% happy, but I wasn't particularly miserable either. So we ended up plodding along, because even if your relationship isn't amazing, you're still with someone so it's better than being alone, right?

However, once I remembered how happy I was before I met him - or at least before things started to go downhill with us - I realized that the grass really was greener on the other side, even if I wouldn't be happy right away. And I realized that I had to go through some really tough shit to get to that point. The way I saw it, I could be 'alright and just plodding along' forever, or I could man up, have a really bad few months or whatever, and then come out of the whole experience happier then ever. So that's exactly what I did, and boy was it tough. I regretted it immediately, and months later when I thought I should be over him, I was still miserable. I doubted if I'd made the right decision and I couldn't really see myself being happy again.

Now though? I AM so much happier and I was right. By realizing that things weren't right between us and putting myself through it all, I did come out as much happier and now I can't believe I put it off for so long.

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So what I mean is, you have to accept that it will be tough and hard. But you need to remember how worth it it will be eventually, even if you can't see it yet.

And when you do realize, remind yourself that by ending things you're doing the right thing for the both of you. Even though you're hurting them, you still love them and want them to be happy. So by letting them go, you're giving them the chance to be happy and one day be happy with someone else too. Once you remember this, it won't seem so bad.

Someone close to me recently went through this. At 34 years old, they were at the age where they were starting to think of the next step, where it was time to get married or have children or something similar. They had been with their boyfriend for over 10 years, on and off, though for the past five had been extremely happy. They lived together - owning a house in a beautiful village - where they were very settled, having close friends all around the village. They were, essentially, married - they had joint bank accounts, a mortgage - the lot. But she knew something wasn't right, yet having to end things after over 10 years together and having so much together? It was tough and she found it so hard to make up her mind. But despite all this, it just wasn't worth sticking around when she could be happier elsewhere. So she made the extremely hard decision of moving on from the relationship and now I can't believe how much happier she is. The hard stuff was worth it and everyone can tell instantly the difference it made to her. It just proved the fact that at some points, you DO have to put yourself first.

There's no point wasting your life plodding along - especially when you're young - when you could actually be spending this time going out and having fun or being with the right person eventually. It just isn't worth it, no matter how hard it is making that big change.

So if you're concerned things 'just aren't right' and you can't fix them, man up, bite the bullet and end it. It will benefit you both so much in the end, but be prepared for tough times ahead. Nothing ever worth having comes easy. The tougher it will be, the more happier you will be when you wake up one day and can finally realize that you can't remember the last time you thought of them or cried about them and you're at last over them.

And finally remember that in 10 years time (hopefully when you're with the right person!) NONE of this will matter, and you'll wonder why you took so long worrying about something that was really quite simple.

Trust me, it's the right thing to do.

Have you ever been in a situation like this? What other issues would you like to see addressed in this 'Words of Wisdom' feature? Please let me know!

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Sunday, 8 July 2012

Monday 2nd July -Sunday 8th July 2012

1. Archers & Indiana Jones The perfect way to pre drink before a night out, especially as I was so geared up to watch it last weekend and was gutted when it was cancelled for Wimbledon
2. Jasper looking really spooky
3. Claim to fame! Remember when this amazing band who I love to pieces tweeted me? Well now they follow me on Instagram too! I'm not quite sure why, but I'm sticking with the reason being that the lead singer Cameron Leahy (oh yes, him again!) is clearly in love with me!
4. Today's outfit
5. The girls last night These three girls have been pretty bloody amazing lately, love them loads!
6. Posing last night Loving my outfit (and my legs!) here
7. A picture I loved I don't know why but I had to take a picture of this in one of the clubs last night

This week I've been -

Watching...Teen Wolf
Reading...Christmas at Tiffany's by Karen Swan
Playing Raising...Roger, my tamagotchi (yes I have a tamagotchi on my phone and yes, he's named after Roger from American Dad. I'd also forgotten how responsible tamagotchi's are, it really is like looking after a child as it wakes me up all bloody night after it poo's!)
Smelling of...Harajuki Lovers Fragrance - Lil' Angel
Perving on...Cameron Leahy awesome my friends are

This week I've been out spending money I really don't have - whoops, naughty Louise! However, the nights out have been more than worth it so it's okay! On Monday we went to Watford and considering I'd never been before, I really enjoyed it. We met some lovely people and also some dodgy people. One lad was so out of it chatting us all up, flashing us and everything - so my oh so lovely friends told him to specifically flash me as 'I was the single one!'. I LOVE being single, but I can't say I loved being single when I had this boy not only flashing me but also practically swinging his willy in my face. Not fun!

I started work in the new Next store this week and love it already! Even though I've been working for Next for well over a month now, it's so nice to be in the store finally and from the day it's actually opened. Everyone is lovely, it's nice because it's permanent (I was only training at the last store to come to this one, so everyone I met I only knew for a few weeks) and the shop is gorgeous! It's so shiny and new, plus the staff room is extra cute.

I spent the whole weekend with Jade, a few of us went out again last night and today we dropped our friend Holly off at the airport and had to say goodbye :( Holly went to high school with us but moved away to Australia, but was back visiting for 10 days. Even though I was never particularly close with her, it was a bit sad saying goodbye this evening. She was a bit sad that most of her close friends didn't make any effort to see her at all when back in the UK, which is something I can definitely sympathize with, as I went to uni I went through the same thing. I had some really close friends and even though I spoke to them on a regular basis, once I was home for good I'd found that things had definitely changed and I'd grown apart from them. That's really made me appreciate my close friends now a lot more though, and it's taught me that a friend isn't always someone you've known the longest or who you're closest to, it's the person or people who are always there for you no matter what or in spite of how much time has passed.

Anyway, I've tried not to plan much this week coming up as I've spent far too much money this week, so I'm afraid I won't be up to anything interesting!

Hope you all had a lovely week :)

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